thebattleofloosingweight

There is this girl I know who is heavy set she is young beautiful, just entered collage and has a great future ahead of her. She should be nothing but exited. So I would think. Usually she is full of excitement when she is just getting back from school with her arms full of materials for her next homework assignment. The day passes everything is fine and then there is dinner time.

The dreaded dinner time. Don’t get me wrong it isn’t like it always sucks. But then there are those days that do. We are all at the dinner table eating chatting the meal is delicious and people are getting up for seconds. Then the girl decides that she too wants a second serving she gets up and there is a comment thrown at her. The (do you really think you need seconds) comment. The (maybe you should just drink water) comment or the (don’t you think you have had enough) comment. These comments upset her, you can see the hurt in her eyes so she decides not to get the second helping of food. Instead she excuses herself from the table. Goes into her room and shuts the door.

My thing is, is it really her fault? Personally I say no. Look I have a daughter too she is only 20 months old and I already struggle with her when it comes to food. Getting her to eat and whether she likes it enough. Then I ask did I give her enough, did I give her too much. Was the food healthy enough did she get enough veggies or enough water or milk etc. Then when I give her a treat its like should I have done that am I giving her a bad example. Or when I am eating something she can’t have like something spicy she doesn’t understand unless I let her taste it. Should I have done that? Or when I am eating a sweet and I don’t want to give her any because she already had too much. I’m sure she thinks why can you and why can’t I? When I am on the computer or watching television. Should I be outside playing with her or at least play with her indoors?

This is were I am going with all this. Who are we as parents that it gives us the right to insult or hurt our children when they are older in reference to what they eat or what they look like. Why didn’t we lead by example when we had the chance? Why didn’t we give them that tool early on in there childhood? Why didn’t we show them that going out, playing outside,  drinking water and eating veggies was an every day part of life. Not a once in a while thing. Maybe today but not tomorrow.

Now you know what I mean and okay so we didn’t do our best when they were younger and mold able. But it is never to late. We can still help them change, again how? Leading by example. If you don’t want them to be unhealthy and over weight then do something. Don’t stock up the kitchen with snacks, ready to eat meals in 5 minutes, ice cream that is easily accessible. Don’t stock up in juices, sodas and punch. Get rid of it. Can we really be willing to give all that up for the sake of our kids? Come on people get a clue. If you are so concern for your children. Then lead by example you too stop at the first serving and skip the seconds!